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Buwani

Buwani is an avid 'chocoholic' (crunching two giant choc chip muffins into her body everyday) and loves to sleep and watch comedies. She loves 'desserts' from all corners of the world and once said she wanted to try a black pudding, however being a vegetarian was pretty shocked to learn what it is actually made of!

Friends who ditch you as soon as they start slobbering over their new boyfriends, and who make you feel like a complete gooseberry on nights out are not in Buwani's good books.

Let me start by explaining that I'm not the type of person who hates seeing couples just because I'm single. In fact, I think it's great to see my friends hook up with guys that are intelligent, funny, and caring. But what I get annoyed with is the fact that most, if not all, of my girlfriends ditch me as soon as they hook up with a guy!

I mean, it's as if I've disappeared, when I'm actually standing right there next to them. Take my best mate from back home for instance. When she started going out with Mr Perfect I felt really bad because she was too 'busy' for me. I gave her the space that she needed and backed off, but I still didn't understand why she couldn't make some time for her best friend of five years.

And now, this strange affliction has followed me all the way to uni. The girls I end up having a night out with have boyfriends. I've started to feel so awkward going out with them because in most cases I end up getting ditched in the middle of the dance floor while they start to 'get busy' with their men. I don't understand why friends can't be a little more tactful. Often, they're the ones who have asked me to come out . It's not like I've suddenly barged in on their cosy evening!

"I don't understand why friends can't be a little more tactful. Often, they're the ones who have asked me to come out. It's not like I've suddenly barged in on their cosy evening!"

I really wish that my 'coupled up' girlfriends would be a little more considerate when they invite their single friends along. I mean, what's the point of inviting someone along if they're not going spend any time with them?

When I have a man in my life I make a point to never ditch any of my single friends. If there is a friend of ours dancing with us, then we'd dance as a group and make an effort to make them feel like they were not intruding.

I'm really tired of just being the single girl's friend. Because of this I've started to not enjoy my nights out as much as I used to and I've resorted to hunting down some fellow single people to have a night out with. That way, I will hopefully get to have a good night out without feeling like I shouldn't be there.

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Updated: 31/03/2006


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