Doctor love
Question
I've got a crush on my doctor. Before, during and after surgery there was huge chemistry and electricity between us. I want to ask him out, but I still feel unsure. Is he taking advantage of me?
Answer
It's worth considering the circumstances in which you fell for this man. Initially, his role as a doctor was to help you out on a medical basis. Psychologically, this can make someone like him seem very attractive, especially if the end result has left you happier as an individual. So, ask yourself if it's his work that has led you to feeling this way, or his personality.
The relationship between a doctor and patient is a very privileged one and for a doctor to form a relationship with a patient could be a breach of their professional code. For you to have a personal rather than a professional relationship with him would require you to stop being one of his patients.
Either way, some time and space to make sense of your feelings can only help you put your welfare first. So why not talk to friends and family about the situation? Chances are, just talking will help you to gain some perspective, and enable you to find the most appropriate way forward.
Updated: 24/04/2009
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