Acting their age
Question
I've just started dating and it just seems like a waste of time. There are plenty of lads who are interested in me but none of them are up for anything serious. I just don't know if I should bother. People keep telling me I'll meet someone special soon but I just haven't met anyone I have a special connection with and it doesn't look it'll happen anytime soon, should I just stop looking and wait?
Answer
If it's any help at all, you're not alone. The world of 'dating' and getting together with someone is a confusing one. It's natural to want to meet someone and have a connection but it's important to remember it isn't compulsory. You should also be aware that being in a relationship wouldn't automatically make you a happier, more complete person. That kind of thing has to come from within, which means learning to live with yourself as an individual.
So try not to worry right now about meeting your big love. You will meet many people in your life, some of whom you'll find you have a special connection with. And then there will be the others who just don't come close. The special ones are few and far between. As the saying goes you need to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince. I don't think the frog-kissing is pointless because we're usually richer people for our experiences with others.
By getting out there and doing whatever it is you're interested in you'll come into contact with people who are interested in the same things and think similarly to you. If you stay at home and wait for things to happen it's unlikely you'll meet people you could connect with in the special way you're looking for. Think about getting out there without worrying too much about when the perfect romance will happen. If you're relaxed and happy with yourself, any kind of relationship can only be a bonus.
Updated: 02/06/2005
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