Get over it
Question
I can't get over a guy I slept with recently. I've fancied him for four months and he was with me even though he had a girlfriend at the time. Since then he's started dating someone else and has left me. I don't want to be with him, I just need to get over him, even though I can't imagine ever feeling the same way about anyone else.
Answer
It sounds like your feelings for this guy have overwhelmed you, and prevented you from viewing the situation objectively. From what you've said it's clear he has some commitment problems, but was prepared to play with your emotions while making his own interests a priority.
Right now, however, it's understandably hard for you to accept this. It will take time to get over him, and the way forward is to surround yourself with friends and family. By all means talk about what happened to people you trust, but also focus on the fact that you're a free agent now with a life of your own to lead.
What you're feeling won't go away overnight. In many ways you need to grieve for the loss of what you had. But slowly you'll learn to accept that what happened is in the past, and move on feeling stronger for the experience.
Updated: 02/06/2005
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