Office romance
Question
I really like a guy who works with me when he's home from uni. I fancy him loads and want to ask him out, but I'm worried about us seeing each other and working together. Do you think it's a bit of a risk?
Answer
Unfortunately there's never going to be one easy, straightforward answer to your problem. It's great you've found someone you're attracted to and with whom you feel compatible. But because you work with him any relationship that develops is going to have its own set of problems and complications.
If you did hook up with him and then the relationship came to an end, how would you feel about working with him, day in and day out? Would the sight of him be too awkward or too much for you to bear? Or do you think you could separate your business life from your personal life? It's not great to think about a relationship ending before it's begun, but in a working environment you don't really have a choice.
Also, bear in mind you're looking at starting a relationship that, even if it works out, is likely to be taking place over a long distance university starts again. It might be that the 'here today, gone tomorrow' feel is part of the appeal. Maybe you feel able to give it a go, knowing that as soon as the holiday is over he will be gone until his next break? That's not necessarily a bad thing but you should bear it in mind before hand.
The point is, as long as you know what you're getting into, including all the pros and cons of the situation, you will feel more in control of the situation and able to think things through clearly, and come to a decision that you'll be happy with before doing anything that might change you friendship forever.
Updated: 08/02/2005
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