Did you know that just 54 percent of lies can be accurately spotted? Also, extroverts tend to tell more lies than introverts.
According to the research, at least 82 percent of lies go undetected. With numbers like these, one nation, even if under oath, may not be very trustworthy. The good news is that even though roughly half of the population promises to be telling the truth, there are some ways people can increase their truth discernment skills to protect themselves from emotional and financial ruin.
While lie detection courses are valuable for face-to-face interactions, the lies that do the most financial damage in the 21st century happen over telecommunications. According to the study, communication channels such as phone, email, text, online classifieds, or social media are used to deceive or threaten people to give out their personal information or money.
Whether you’re dealing with false online threats or dishonest people lying to your face, the question remains: what are the signs that someone is lying?
It may be difficult to tell when someone is lying if you don’t know how they act when they are telling the truth, which underscores the importance of establishing trust with someone before you share personal information. On the other hand, if you know someone and find yourself wondering if you’re being told the whole truth or a half-truth, here is a list of the top signs that someone is lying.
A Change In Speech Patterns
One telltale sign someone may not be telling the whole truth is irregular speech. A person’s voice or mannerisms of speaking may change when they tell a lie.
The Use Of Non-Congruent Gestures
If a person says yes but shakes their head no, it may indicate that they’re not telling the truth. Non-congruent gestures are movements in the body that don’t match the words a person says, and the gestures are the truth-tellers. If someone says, “Of course, I’ll cooperate with the investigation” and gives a small head shake, there’s a possibility they will not tell the whole truth and nothing but the truth.
SQPI can help to investigate further if you are confused.
They Are Suddenly Tracking Your Whereabouts
If your partner is suddenly wanting to know exactly what time you were leaving for work, when you’ll be home, and is asking for details about your schedule that usually do not interest him, that is a red flag. He may be tracking your whereabouts to make phone calls or visit with his lover.
You’re Being Gaslit
If you repeatedly have the experience of starting to question your reality based on feedback from your boyfriend, he may be gaslighting you. Oftentimes when a cheater gaslights their partner they will accuse him or her of being paranoid, imagining things, being jealous, hysterical, or overly emotional. They will blatantly lie and do it in a way that makes you question your reality.
They’re Protective Of Their Phone And Computer
The number one giveaway is technology. A partner who is protective of their phone is a red flag, especially if this is a new behavior. If your boyfriend is on his phone a lot, and hiding it from you, you may have a problem. And if you think that would be super obvious, well the bad news is cheaters can suddenly become very tech-savvy. In this day and age, the technologically advanced cheater is likely to have apps that hide contact with their side piece. So, look for changing phone habits, and if you happen to see a flurry of new apps on his home screen, ask some questions.
Something Is Different About Their Car
More mileage than expected can be a bad sign, as can significant changes in gas fill-ups, especially in new neighborhoods. A passenger seat that has been adjusted to a new setting can indicate that someone else has been riding a shotgun in your place. And of course, like a bedroom, a car can be inhabited by belongings that don’t belong, like hair ties, cosmetics, or even undies that aren’t yours.
They Recently Had A Makeover
Significant changes in appearance can be a leading indicator of an affair. New clothes and underwear are a red flag city, especially when they represent a trend your partner has no history of caring about and you hadn’t mentioned liking, either. If your partner, who used to love it when you did his laundry or shared laundry duties with you, suddenly wants to take over doing his own laundry, you just may have a problem. Same thing with new bathing habits. The partner that suddenly is racing to the shower after getting home from work is concerning.
They Have New Interests And Vocabulary
When your partner suddenly has a different Spotify playlist of songs you’ve never even heard of, it should raise an eyebrow. Our tastes tend to be influenced by people, especially in romantic relationships when we spend a lot of time with them. The same goes for our vocabulary. We tend to absorb the phrases and expressions of those we spend a lot of time with.
If you have noticed a lot of new vocabulary from your partner, you may want to ask about it. The same goes for interests. It is unusual for someone to pick up a new sport or hobby they’ve never even mentioned to their boyfriend or girlfriend out of the blue.
You Feel Disconnected And Sex Is More Or Less Frequent
When we are romantically involved with someone, they become our primary person. If you notice that your partner no longer tells you about his day, shares his struggles, or talks to you about things that are important to him, you have a problem. Connection is key in a relationship and not having that connection, or that focus going to someone else, is a problem.
Changes in sexual frequency, technique, or intensity can also give you valuable information. It is not just having less sex, believe it or not, since sometimes cheaters initiate it more. Our libidos and sexual frequency fluctuate throughout the life cycle of a relationship, even years into marriage, but marked increases or decreases that you’re not talking about can be a bad sign.
You’ve Noticed Money Changes
Yes, there are credit card statements with jewelry or hotel rooms that you’ve never seen, but there are plenty of other signs to look for. Regular new cash withdrawals are a sign of a partner who does not want to leave a paper trail. New credit cards, junk mail, or bank statements from unfamiliar companies may be a sign that they’ve opened separate accounts. If your spouse is suddenly working longer hours but you’re not seeing financial results or hearing about the big project that’s keeping them late, that raises questions, too.
Conclusion
When in doubt, let your instincts protect your personal and financial information. To summarize some practical advice: if you think someone might be lying to you, leave the conversation, hang up the phone, stop emailing or texting, and report what happened immediately to someone you actually know and trust.
